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Table of Contents 10th January 2009, Issue #009

This Month's Article:
A New Year – Opportunity for a Clean Slate
Tip of the Month: Become an Expert

A New Year – Opportunity for a Clean Slate

Each time the calendar flips over into a new year a number of opportunities present themselves. As we say goodbye to 2008 and hello to 2009 we have the chance to initiate important changes within ourselves and in our lives.

Since so much is occurring in the outer world that we experience as happening TO us, it is doubly important to take control of our inner lives and retain a sense of our personal power.

The suggestions below may help you in this process.

Taking stock, making changes

It can be helpful to review the last year as if it was a road you have driven down. See if you need to correct your course or steer in a different direction. Ask yourself whether the things you have done have led you towards your goals, enriched or benefited you.

If you are dissatisfied with your experiences or what you have achieved, it could mean you have lost direction or need to do things differently. A fresh approach or a new perspective may be all the adjustment needed to make 2009 a more successful year for you.

Making resolutions, turning over a new leaf

Most of us have made resolutions at one time or another with varying degrees of success.

Making the entrance of the new year a time for turning over a new leaf is a great idea if you really are ready for change. Resolutions hastily created at five minutes to midnight on the last day of the year are not the most likely to be kept. So take time in these first few weeks of 2009 to get clear about what you want to change.

If, for instance, you want to stop smoking, prepare yourself by visualising yourself as a non-smoker. Think about all the advantages of becoming so. Consider the resources you can draw upon such as nicotine patches, the support of friends and family, the services of a hypnotherapist etc. Think of practical ways to help you keep to your resolution like saving the money you would have spent on cigarettes to spend on a holiday of your dreams.

A planned approach to the making of resolutions is much more likely to lead to you keeping them.

Moving on from the past

When you have had a year you would rather forget it’s natural to want to put the experience behind you and move on. A couple of things can help you do that.

If you are left with painful or unhappy feelings at the year’s end, it is more helpful to make the resolution to heal than to forget.

Recovery from any form of hurt or grief will take place gradually over time and will benefit from a lot of self-nurturing. Resolve to take care of yourself, be kind to yourself, accept the support of others, find satisfaction in small things. By all means resolve to be active too – but if you really want to move on, don’t try to bury the past as if it had never happened. This will not work in the long run.

Wiping the slate clean

Forgiveness is another way of freeing yourself from the past and wiping the slate clean. If anyone has treated you badly in the last year you can release yourself from the feelings of hurt or anger by forgiving them. This frees you up emotionally to enter a new and happier period of your life.

You can leave your baggage behind by sending loving thoughts to those you have an issue with. If you find that difficult, it could be because you need to express your anger before you can move on. Follow this link for methods on how to harmlessly release your anger. (Look for the section on dealing with toxic emotions).

Taking the positives with you

Leave the negatives of the old year behind but take the positives with you into the new year.

Take time to acknowledge the blessings of the old year and you may realise just how much goodness you have received. Allow yourself to feel gratitude for all that you have learnt, all of the love and support you have been given, the enjoyable experiences you had, the material goods you have acquired or had the use of.

Being in touch with your blessings, both past and present, can greatly enhance your trust in, and positive anticipation of, the future.

A Happy New Year in 2009

May I wish you all a healthy, safe, happy and prosperous new year. Even with the challenges that you may be facing at this time, hold on to the belief that things can be good and the year can be kind, for as you know – what you think and visualise, you attract to you.

This Month's Tip: Become an Expert

Becoming an expert in some field of knowledge or activity can be a great boost to your self confidence. Your subject could be about: life in the Andes, making wine, landscape photography, the social history of some foreign country or weaving with yak wool. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it’s something that interests you.

You can enjoy many benefits from becoming master of an area of life that you had little previous knowledge of. Aside from the confidence boost, you could end up with a new hobby and you will certainly have a new and interesting topic of conversation. Others may respect you either for your knowledge or the fact that you went out and learned something different.

Why not add becoming an expert to your list of new year resolutions!

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