Improving your self confidence skills will positively affect every area of your life. Focus on these five main skills and learn how to transform your relationships and everything you do.
Communicate with Confidence
If you are lacking in this self confidence skill, you probably know the difficulty of expressing yourself as you wish, asking for what you need, or asserting yourself when necessary. You may choose your words carefully but still your message isn't getting across or you fail to get the response you want. So what goes wrong?
Communication is not just about what we say, or even how we say it. Research shows body language contributes 55% of what we communicate, tone of voice 38% and what we say, only 7%. So how you appear and the signals you give off are the most important part of your message and often determine the outcome of your communication.
Of all the self confidence skills, this ranks amongst the highest since communication is the very stuff of life. Here are some tips to help you communicate more effectively:
Click on this link to read more about body language, and how to communicate with confidence at work and in relationships.
Perform Your Best
One of the most important self confidence skills is being able to perform to the best of your ability, unhampered by nerves, self doubt or low esteem. There is nothing so frustrating as knowing you can do something well, but when it matters most, you don't.
Even professionals commonly experience performance anxiety or 'stage fright', but for most of us, it is the everyday challenges that we would like to get to grips with. Whether you are a student sitting an exam, a golfer wanting to improve your handicap, a speaker at a meeting or an artiste performing on stage, you can boost your performing power in the following ways:
Read more about performing your best and creating a win-win situation.
Motivation is the desire and energy to do what you want, the drive to reach a goal and succeed. It gets you from A to B basically, and is an important self confidence skill. Since it is a driving force which extends from you out into the world, you can help motivate yourself by projecting your energy outwards in the form of activity.
Physical exercise is one way of doing this. As well as a healthy stirring up of the corpuscles, you are likely to experience a range of feelings that motivate. While the extra oxygen is coursing through your body and brain, inspiration can come, together with the energy to do and achieve. Enthusiasm is born!
Many people say they are too tired for a game of tennis or a jog round the block but the truth is, the more exercise you do, the more energy you have and the better you feel. Activity puts you in touch with your physical power which can then be expressed by working towards your goals.
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Be at Ease with Yourself
What does it take to feel comfortable just being yourself? Striving for perfection, having unrealistic expectations of yourself and worrying about what others think of you only leads to chronic discontent and unhappiness. In contrast, self acceptance helps you to relax into who you are. When you do this, you gain the natural beauty and poise of the genuine person - male or female.
Every single one of us has our good points and our less good points. So, instead of being self-critical, acknowledge the positives and do what you can to improve the rest. The understanding that this is enough, that you are already good enough, is the foundation of self acceptance.
Being at ease with yourself could be described as an art as well as one of the essential self confidence skills. It is a state of being which is fundamental to all you aspire to. It cannot be got around. You'll find an abundance of help in the Techniques section to help you develop this quality, so son't miss that bit out.
Manage Fear and Anxiety
Whenever there is lack of confidence there is usually a component of fear or anxiety. It is not realistic to expect these unpleasant effects to be banished for all time. Fear is designed to keep us out of danger and anxiety can still be experienced by the most confident person occasionally. However...
As your self confidence skills develop these sensations will lessen and you will be able to manage them when they occur. Meanwhile here are some things you can do to induce calm and relaxation:
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